Livia,
Yes, and exing isn't always a happy thing for the ex, and I'm talking long-term here. Some people handle it just fine, but others sink into a depression they just can't get out of.
I know exes who are terminally depressed and I know happy exes, and I know really screwed up premies as well as very happy ones, if deluded.
Terminal depression would mean to me that someone commits suicide due to depression. The correct term here is chronic depression. People who suffer from chronic depression don't do so by choice. Would you make such comments about someone suffering from cancer? That they "can't get out of it?"
Even all those "modern miraculous medicines" (anti-depressants, etc.) don't always work, and in my country they are not always affordable by those who don't have healthcare insurance (but the last thing I want to discuss is the politics of healthcare).
"...but others sink into a depression they just can't get out of." This statement is like saying "...but others sink into their cancer (or name your illness) that they just can't get out of."
I'll say it again: People don't choose to be chronically depressed any more than someone chooses to have what would be termed a physical disease.
Let's work to take the stigma out of mental illness, not put it in. I'm talking long term here.
Cynthia
