Sorry Nem. Completely over reacted. Know you were posting in kindness.

Can't resist a little addendum though..... the deep dark pit bit of my depression seemed to just land on me.It was so overwhelming that there was no room for "self-centredness" or anything else for that matter. Despite that ,I don't feel I lost sight of the "bigger picture" but it was inaccessible and that was very frustrating !! However , once I  was a good distance down  the road to emerging ...your advice IMO  is very useful . 

YAHOO!!! LETS HAVE A PARTY !

Oh..one last thing and in response to a private message...I would like to say that I only took six weeks off work which my boss was extremely understanding and kind about . The other five years I carried on working in a very responsible, high powered job... and nobody would ever have known !