This much I know, Jonx: when I could no longer deny the facts about M I did face them and I did act on them. It was probably the most hellish year of my life, and one of the hardest things I have ever done, but I did it. Every ex posting here can tell you the same thing: that one day the sheer dishonesty of the premie position became too much and they had to admit they'd been fooled.

To achieve such self-honesty is clearly a morally courageous step, and on-going self-deception--a wilful avoidance of truth--is clearly immoral and cowardly.

Or do you regard self-deception and dishonesty as fine and dandy?

Neville B