...that accidentally coming across epo was the final Big Drip, of course!  And at first I was afraid--like touching a hot stove and retreating for a while.  But once I was ready to look at that information again, then there was no going back.  I had to be ready, and therein lies the key, possibly.  Maybe your partner will get there in the end, or not.  It's a bit like waiting for an alcoholic to give up the drink.  You can't put your life on hold while you wait.  It involves a lot of letting go, but that doesn't necessarily mean splitting up.

Best of luck,

Shelagh