'"Disregard the years of love, depth, and personal growth you have had", you say to premies.'

Those are Jonx' words. He's claiming some special, personal growth as a result of being a premie that we are apparently wanting him to abandon by becoming an ex. I challenged him on this. I know premies, have spent years of my life with premies. There's nothing special about them, nothing at all, unless a refusal to face facts is somehow an achievement.

Is that so complicated?

BTW, you may wish to assess the magnificent display of "discussion" we've seen from Joy Wisdom on this thread, in which any reference to facts or rationality is greeted with airy-fairy appeals to his/ her "experience" and irrelevant quotations from Kabir.

Neville B