Not to mention poet and writer, judging by your images.  Hi Lesley!  And thanks for that. 

On a more humorous note about this fence-sitting business, I do remember M talking about how some of us had been on the fence so long, we had stripes across an unmentionable part of our anatomy!  Well, one might as well laugh--but I'm happy to say, when I look at myself in the bathroom mirror, there are no marks on this body!

The soul, though--as has already been said here--the loss of soul to this whole thing is the most difficult to forgive him for, and is indeed the most insidious aspect of what M has done!  I wouldn't want to be in his multi-million dollar shoes for ANYTHING!

Best to you, Lesley! 

Shelagh