That's OK. But it's nothing to do with having been a premie or had whatever experience. It's simply a matter of logic -- the way things are. Even God cannot make a square circle.

You'll probably dismiss this as patronising, that's up to you. But to argue I cannot say anything worthwhile about life with M or K is unwise. I understand the principle ... but the *same* principle yields that *you* cannot say anything worthwhile about life without M & K.

But you do say stuff about life without M & K, don't you? Just like me, you find yourself perfectly able to think about stuff without (before!) actually doing it, and you find it is useful to use your mind like that.