Joe,

I have only one way to respond to something that you said, which is so true (as evidenced by the source of this thread): ".......The third was that if you focus on something "negative" it's "mind" or is otherwise detrimental to your experience of knowledge....."

You know what? To hell with "my" own, personal, "experience of knowledge" if it means my kid has to be abused so that "I" can learn some obscure lesson.  GAWD!!!!!!! Were we so self-absorbed or what?   Are premies, today, so self-absorbed that they would sacrifice the safety and well-being of their own children just to have their own, personal, little-slice-o-heaven?  To properly and fully "expeience the grace" of the lard-incarnate, I must sacrifice my own children to the vagaries of one of his "trusted" perverts? SCREW THAT!!!!!!!

To hell with my own, personal, private and oh-so-fulfilling peace-of-mind experience!!!!!  It's WAY too costly!