Please stop trying to make me out as such a terrible person Cynthia , because I don't deserve it. I could pick on anybody's posts here if I really wanted to , and learn something about their vulnerabilities and then constantly undermine them...but what purpose would it serve ?...except perhaps to drive them away.

If you want me to leave this forum you certainly know how to go about it.

Re: the passive /aggression link you connected that post way down the threads to.....

I did look at it quickly ( realising that if one tries hard enough one can always find something on the Internet to apparently justify one's point of view ). I realised that , on the whole , I have spoken up openly about any grievances , and when I have dared do this the response has been that the whole thread was promptly deleted or I got a tongue lashing from you and occasionally criticism from some predictable " others" ( oh...and sometimes "men" leapt to my defence     ).....It seems to me that I'm in a " damned if you do/ damned if you don't " situation.

Gotta go.