Lexy,

     In the case of JW - who is in fact  a bloke - the tone of his postings is fairly robust and I was responding in kind - I'm quite happy for the mods to suggest I'm more genteel but I do think that the forum guidelines were more written,  with those in mind who found the process of posting here intimidating , rather than cult propagandists like JW. In the past JW would have been blocked within hours - so actually even letting him post here is an advance in tolerance. 

There will always be apparent differences in the way the mods respond - thankfully they are not a machine - and I guess some posters will get away with behaviour that others don't. At least new exs do not  anymore get shouted at and accussed of being trolls for expressing what others consider to be pro cult ideas.

N