I completely understand what you're saying, and my tendency is the same.
However, if you (someone, a wellmeaning naive premie) get such a big shocking news, your first reaction will always be: this cannot be true. This MUST not be true...
I only hope this guy will call me again, and we can have a chance to find common ground, so that he would slowly but surely be able to open up to *reality* as it is.
Nearly 50 years of brainwashing - and always "having a good experience" meaning: feeling so nicely comfortable in your little armchair, you might not want to hear anything which could shake the very grounds of your ....what you think is: "reality". To understand that for half a century, which is about 80% of your lifetime, you were deceived, taken for a ride etc.pp. .... that is something which most ppl will not be able to digest.
I do hope he is strong or at least, curious enough to get back to me and look for another opportunity to talk about it more in depth.
And by the way: I, for one, read this phone call info just a few hours ago - whereas my phone call with this dear premie already happened a few days in the past. So I was not completely up-to-date.
And also, I would not want to spoil our first phone call after ~45-48 years of not knowing anything about how life unfolded for each of us. So, I am patient. And either something caught in him and he does want to know more, then he will call again. And if not: too bad for him, not for me.