I get sick of reading about those ex moonies who whine about the mass marraiges too.  They chose to marry strangers. All that sadness and anger over lost relationships and potential on the ex moonie site - it is their choice to be angry. Instead, they could be learning from the experience of marrying and getting along with a total stranger! I mean, who gets a chance to do that? They could have had a normal borning life; but now what a great story to tell!  I knew a few moonies who really seemed to manage to follow Moon and still have a life, and even married who they wanted! If the Moonies who participated in the mass marraiges choose to remain bitter about it forever- well they were just the kind of messed up people who join a cult to begin with.