. . . the message was there that devoting yourself 100% was the ultimate and that non ashramers were somehow second class.

I agree.  That was my experience.  Non ashramers were definitely second class premies practicing Knowledge Light.  Maharaji constantly ridiculed relationships and careers as empty pursuits and often warned premies about "not wasting this lifetime."

I may be wrong but I think the really angry exes who post here are ex ashramers - the true-hearts who gave up sex, careers, education, relationships, inheritances, even their families to realise Knowledge.

Sometimes it's good to look back in anger.