This patronising paragraph nearly made me vomit.........even if you " don't think it applies to me." ( My son is only just thirteen so I won't be joining you in the Grandparent forum for a while....I hope !   )

Finally, here's a standard message and I don't think it applies to you, but if you need cult exit therapy then see a therapist.  If you need therapy then see a therapist.  This forum and any other forum are not substitutes for therapy.  And that's been said many, many times before and it always bears repeating.  If you need a forum that is not so challenging then find a forum on cooking or sports.  No, forget sports that's worse than this.  Ok, cooking or pets it is then or maybe a nice forum about how wonderful it is to be a grandparent or something.