I think what we're looking at is that if you didn't have a caring father then quite simply you don't know the difference.
I didn't know what it feels like to be treated well so when Rawat presented as the good father, not that I thought about it but my attitude was to believe him, and I didn't have the experience to say hang on a minute, this doesn't feel right. In fact his godlike distance felt normal.
In the early days, before Rawat could break us up, it was the warmth of the premies that drew us in.