multifactorial, still I think the most important part is love.  fulfilling that.  When my mum was so incapacitated and vulnerable in her latter years I always wanted to be by her side and it was stressful when I wasn't.  I remember one evening we were finally together, sitting side by side and holding hands, not speaking but the feeling of peace within was very strong. 

yes, what a good post, Suzy, the idea of inner peace did not bring peace.  and I remember, it was distinctly icky walking around after a program feeling like I should be a light in the darkness, I felt better once it wore off again so yes, when it comes to it, we are lucky to be the bamboozled rather than the bamboozlers.  

Intent weighs in so strongly despite actual results when it comes to inner peace.